We’re very excited to announce that we will be publishing our first book, You, Me & The Space Between Us which is coming out on 2nd February. Every relationship goes through periods of rupture, but we wanted to show why it happens and how it is possible to turn a period of struggle into something positive. It’s full of advice, case studies and practical exercises which we hope will help you build a relationship that can thrive.
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Read MoreThe holiday season is upon us. As a holiday gift, I am offering a free module from our online course: Passionate Partnership . You might consider using the course as a handy relationship tune up whilst you are away. The course has many fun and exhilarating games and exercises to do together with your partner, family and friends.
Read MoreThanks to our literary agent Peters, Fraser & Dunlop, Sarah and I are pleased to announce we have been offered a publishing contract with Bonnier.
Read MoreHarmony, disruption, repair is a cycle found in all significant relationships. Repair is important, but the rupture has to happen first and is therefore crucial. It is the disruption that create the golden opportunities for repair. As repair happens, trust is built up and the relationship grows and strengthens.
Read MoreWe are in a time of change again. Many of us got used to a new way of working, even if reluctantly at first. Others enjoyed it from the start whilst some railed against it.
What many had known intuitively all along is now becoming clear: We need to be seen and to be validated in the world; to be able to work and see how our efforts make a difference. Being in the gaze of others, receiving the glances of strangers, can be uplifting and life affirming. It’s an acknowledgment of our humanity. Isolation is perilous in this respect and can be dehumanising.
Read MoreWhat is passion? Passion is Eros, one of the Greek Creator Gods. According to legend Eros, along with Chaos and Gaia, created the Earth. Passion is life force. When we feel passionate we are full of energy and often longing for connection with someone or something. In this state we feel alive and in a state of flow, engaged and attuned to our process. Passion is energy that goes out and when we think of passion as desire, we mean it is the passion to have union in sexual love. It is the will to unite, to bring someone into you
Read More‘Two wolves live within each of us’ said the old Cherokee grandmother to his grandson. ‘These wolves are fighting. They want different things. One wolf hungers for all that goes wrong and thrives on hatred and strife. The other has an appetite for the things that go right and flourishes on love and beauty’. The grandson asks, ‘which wolf wins the fight?’
Read MoreMost conflicts are about a point of view. We argue about our differences in recalling the facts of an event. We say this happened like this and get upset when our partner disagrees. Or we have a conviction about something and want to persuade our partner that they should agree with us. When they don’t we get upset. We might be really into something and want our partner to appreciate it too. We feel dismissed if they don’t have the same kind of enthusiasm. Hoping our partner will love something as much as we do or pitting our point of view against theirs leads to stress and misery. So why do we do it? How come we so easily get into these kinds battles?
Read MoreIn the first study to perform a preliminary exploration of sexual behaviour during the COVID-19 outbreak, this research from China shows that sex diminished between married couples with 36% of married men and 28% of married women reporting a decrease in the frequency of sexual activities during confinement.
Read MoreRelationship is not a simple interaction between one person and another. Because within each of us we have a family of different selves which developed in response to challenges we met when we grew up. Each self is there to protect us in some way. When we are with our partner, we are relating between one or another of these selves in us and them.
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