Most conflicts are about a point of view. We argue about our differences in recalling the facts of an event. We say this happened like this and get upset when our partner disagrees. Or we have a conviction about something and want to persuade our partner that they should agree with us. When they don’t we get upset. We might be really into something and want our partner to appreciate it too. We feel dismissed if they don’t have the same kind of enthusiasm. Hoping our partner will love something as much as we do or pitting our point of view against theirs leads to stress and misery. So why do we do it? How come we so easily get into these kinds battles?

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